Your cock when it’s soft is - perfect 💛
• Have you ever had your cock deeply connected with when it’s soft? Either on your own or with a partner?
• How did it feel? Physically as well as emotionally?
Connecting with your cock when it’s soft can be a vulnerable experience as society focuses on hard ons.
We may not be used to this kind of connecting.
This experience without the intention of trying to get your cock hard is a reminder that your cock is deserving in all moments - not just when you are hard or can build a hard on.
Cock Connection Examples -
✨ Breathe into both hands a few times then allow the warmth built in your hands to gently cup your cock. Breathing into the feeling of your hands connected on your cock. Appreciating it all - just as it is ✨
✨Spending time with coconut oil, observing, breathing and massaging your cock without focus of orgasm or to build a hard on can be an incredibly opening practice
Giving your cock ALL OF THE LOVE IT DESERVES
It is perfect and deserving of love in every size, shape and form- always
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Love - is my greatest driving force 💛
Knowing the power of loving with devotion
Knowing the openings that happen when we honor another in our humanness and honesty of ourselves and themselves
Knowing the impact of eye contact together. Holding one another. Being in deep presence with one another.
Love is everywhere around us.
It fuels me in my days in - everything.
Where have you seen and felt love before?
In a look? In words? In a moment?
I would love to hear 👇🏻💗
Would you be interested in joining live nude yoga and stretching sessions here with me?
👉🏻If yes - what days work best for you and what timezone are you?
💭Why nude stretching and yoga?
These would be a space for you to have full allowance for yourself.
Full feeling of your body and relaxation with and for yourself.
We all need and deserve these times.
They are a great re set for our body, nervous system, mind and self overall.
Stretching and moving our body is great for releasing tension, releasing anxiety, increasing circulation and lymph movement and more!
Looking forward to holding these spaces for us here
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🤍✨ This spoke to me
My deepest love within sex and physical connection - is as worship. Honoring every inch of one another as humans as well as honoring each other’s bodies with pure presence and care.
What happens when we worship one another?
The inspiration that lives within opening into one another. Into Sex. Intimacy. Pleasure. Life.
I am devoted to worship. 🪞🤍
Our nude body is our home 💛
✨How do you feel about spending time nude?
✨Outside of the sexual aspect of connecting with our nudity and body - do you spend time with your body?
This can feel awkward at first if we never have.
There is an opening to life and with ourselves that happens when we spend time in connection with our nude body.
Spending time in the mirror with it
Feeling, Massaging and Touching It
Talking to it
This beautiful body of yours.
Falling in love with our lines, curves and uniqueness.
I have been finding little ways in my day to day to spend more time with my nude body. Doing mirror gazing. Doing mirror affirmations. Doing my stretching- nude. Cooking nude.
Noticing - how these activities feel vs with clothes?
To be - it feels - free. Natural. Home 💛
Take a moment in the mirror today 💛
Speak aloud what feels true to celebrate YOU
Speak aloud to honor YOU
- What have you completed this week you didn’t know if you could?
-Where have you given yourself or another more grace than before?
- Where did you step out of your comfort zone?
Celebrating these little moments is what life is made for.
We were never made to just move through the days.
Celebrate the beauty that is you.
Remind yourself - just how beautiful you really are
Relation - ship 💭
We each have a relation - ship.
With life.
With ourselves.
With others.
How are we personally RELATING with ourselves? With life? With those we are in relationships with of any kind?
Are we be choosing to relate?
Are we befriending it all?
Are we listening to what’s deeper?
Are we honoring us?
Checking in with this.
Each relationship we have is like - a SHIP 💭
How are we tending to our ship?
Are we caring for it and listening to it?
Are we paying attention to its needs?
May we come back to relating in our relationships
May we come back to tending our SHIP in relationships
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What is something new you have been thinking about trying?
I’m honoring myself with more play during the days. Shibari is a form of play, learning and surrender all in one.
Finding what ignites that fire and joy within us and doing more of - that 💗
Meditation looks different for all of us 🤍
Meditation is simply - flow.
Where or in what activity do you feel you can just - let go and get lost in it all?
For some of us it may be gardening, washing dishes, playing a game, working on cars, playing basketball -
For me - expressing with rope and learning Shibari is time deep in meditation ✨
My mind - lost in the presence with the rope and every tie. My body pulsing with joy.
What does meditation look like in your life? .
Notice - where do you feel held yet also feel pure focus?
💗👇🏻Have you ever practiced Shibari?
What was your experience?
What is one of my turn ons? 💭
Watching Others Play ( Consensually + In Real Life 🤍 )
One of my favorite memories of watching is from when I attended a private sex party years ago.
Walking in and feeling the energy of - freedom.
🚨If you have never attended a sex party - something helpful to know - you can attend and not need to feel you must participate or be physically intimate with anyone.
It can be a fun learning experience to just connect with others in your same perspective of thinking 🤍
Watching for me is an opening
Relaxing into my own being and engaging in the draw of the others. Noticing the way it feels in my body - watching them.
The energy in the way he guides her lips back onto his lips.
The energy in the way she pulls him closer - desiring him deeper.
Both lost in one another.
It was incredibly sexy seeing couples and lovers feeling so free - playing and having sex with the curtains open in the connection spaces and just - allowing. Being.
Have you ever watched or been watched?
What was your experience with it all?
How did this feel in your body to drop into others or have them drop into you?
When you think of the word PLEASURE - what do you think of - for you? 🤍
A few reflection questions on pleasure 💭
- What does pleasure feel like in your body?
- How do you know when you’re feeling pleasure?
- What does pleasure mean for your days and life?
- How do you offer and invite pleasure into your days?
- What brings deep feelings of pleasure into your being?
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Using the magic of releasing sound together 🤍
Join me in this audio exercise where we explore using the breath and letting go of sound together.
Did you know - Sound is a key in relaxing deeper into the body as well as building sexual energy and pleasure into the body
For many of us who often are used to being more quiet during sex or intimate moments or not used to being encouraged to release sound within life - this can feel awkward at first.
Go at your own speed.
Let go of what feels good to YOU.
Practicing this allowance for ourselves is key.
Sound is an invitation for a deeper opening.
Remember within releasing sound - we open 🤍
Our body. Our heart. Our cock or yoni. Everything.
Sound is a gift here to be used for all areas of our life.
How does your body and self feel after this exercise?
Why are grounding and body connection exercises so important? 💭
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Have you ever been within another’s presence and you could FEEL them?
Without them saying a word or doing anything - you could FEEL their gentleness, their patience, their calm, their turn on, their aliveness for life?
Have you ever been in another’s presence as they danced or moved or touched and you could FEEL every move? FEEL the true turn on and deep connection to themselves?
✨As a society, we have normalized living disconnected from our bodies and selves - moving through the days, moments, sex, touch, etc.
Deciding and doing all from the MIND.
When we are in the mind - we are lost in our thoughts, habits, shoulds and disconnected from the depth of FEELING in the moments.
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When we practice grounding our body and begin connecting to our body in these ways - we come out of the mind and into the body and FEELING.
The more we are grounded in feeling - the more we can feel our truth moving through our body, mind and self as well as - others can feel us.
We feel MORE.
They feel US MORE.
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Our presence holds the opening 🤍
We can go through all of the motions in the day or do all of the things but - how present were we with them?
The presence holds the LIFE in it all ✨
We can smell a flower but what happens when we smell the flower instead with such stillness and so slowly. With our eyes closed and bringing in the smell ever so gently? The experience - comes to life.
When we are cooking our dinner - what happens when we slow down and close our eyes to take in a slow, deep smell of all of the life we created that surrounds? What happens when we slow down and feel each of the textures of the food we are preparing? It all - comes alive.
When we breathe deeper into it.
When we slow down with it.
It all - comes alive.
When we kiss our partner goodbye or hug them hello - how present are we with it all?
What happens when we slow down with them in these - taking a moment to really feel our lips grazing theirs - noticing our hands and how good and relaxed they feel around their waist after a long day. Feeling your hearts beating against one another.
When we are touching our lover’s body or even our own - what happens when we come into full focus with it? Slow down with it to look at it in full presence and simply - breathe it all in?
Taking time to notice our fingertips and the way they graze the skin. How it feels. The life in the touch.
Taking time to notice the sweat droplet over her breast and the life within that. The art of the rolling back of her eyes and depth of her smile coming about as your fingertips are in connection
Instead of just touching and doing what gets us to the next space of aliveness - let us come into presence to build to that next space instead.
How much MORE is held in the presence vs just moving through the motions.
How much MORE to feel and experience in life that all it takes is our - presence.
As humans - we were created as sensual beings.
Our senses - here to guide us to infinite amounts of pleasure and all of the aliveness of life when we are connected in to them.
- When your fingertips graze over a texture we love or a soft blanket- what happens? Our body becomes tuned into that feeling. It makes us feel more open, calm and also feel - pleasure.
- When you smell a smell you love - what happens? You close your eyes and become present with that smell. Taking in the depths of the smell and layers to enjoy as your body becomes calm yet more ALIVE
When you hear that song or a sound you enjoy - what happens? That same thing.
✨Pleasure is waiting in presence with of our senses ✨
Take time each day to play deeper with your senses to enjoy the endless opportunities of pleasure awaiting in the days ✨
To look into one another’s eyes and just, be together.
We all need spaces where we can let go.
Where we can be held in our raw, real emotions and full self.
Your naked body. Your naked soul.
All on their own - perfect.
They don’t need to be - any bit - more.
Every scar.
Every line.
Every wrinkle.
Every “I don’t know”
Every piece you wish to hide away.
This is your human.
This is - beauty.
Life is one big turn on waiting to be connected with ✨
~ The endless smells that surround us that can create this feeling of excitement, aliveness and a chill down our spines
Maybe in flowers, a smell of our favorite meal, a favorite perfume - whatever it may be - the smells are awaiting our connection - that much deeper
~The presence with our touch upon all of the various textures and shapes life gifts us and how it all opens our body and turn on when we are in tune.
Noticing these curves, the depth of lines, the call of each color - how it all feels against our skin?
~The sounds that surround us - ones that are waiting to bring a warmth and melting into relaxation feeling to our ears.
~ How our breath when we are tuned in with it - can guide us into pure - bliss
When we slow down with the moments - we discover life to be - one big turn on 🤍
Every inch of your body is PERFECT 🤍
Our nude body is our natural.
In all that it is - it is perfectly designed.
Every line.
Every curve.
Every mark.
Every piece.
My care and deepest intention for all of my work as a creator and support guide / coach is to create a space for you to dive further into connection with - everything 💛
With - Life. Yourself and your soul. Your relationships. The world around you. Your feelings. Your body. Your touch. Your energy.
Everything - Deeper.
💭In our world today - we have normalized disconnection and distraction.
~ It is normalized for us to choose to disconnect. Rushing through touch with our bodies or sex disconnected instead of feeling the rush in the full opening and heightening of each piece in presence.
~ It is normalized where when we feel worry, fear, anxiety boredom, etc - we disconnect. Our heads in our screen. Our touch, disconnected from ourselves. Ourselves choosing - distraction.
I lived disconnected this way for many years and finally said - no more.
I found that when I leaned into presence as well as to honoring the depth of me and life instead of disconnection or distraction - there was more JOY that also came to be felt.
I felt more ME than ever before.
My range brought me - freedom.
The greatest gifts are hearing feedback from clients in working with me in this way.
To hearing how much more they’re feeling connected to themselves.
How much more they’re enjoying connecting with the small aspects that were missed in life before
Hearing them embracing, honoring and loving - is everything
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To this beautiful life of DEPTH.
Where and in what do we notice that we hide? 💭
As humans - we place expectations daily on ourselves to fit into boxes.
Shoulds. Labels.
Less of this. More of this. Hide, this.
When we do this - we close ourselves off from our truth as a body - heart - and - soul.
We were made to embrace, feel and honor our range.
Our raw. Our messy. Our unknowing. Our unpolished. Our scars. Our shadows.
Reflect today - What do you notice you feel you often feel you have to hide?
Remember - Your range is - human.
A Life Update 💛
Where have I been? 💭
I have missed each and every one of you and this space so much.
Life has been and is truly a consistent reminder of the need for - FLOW.
What happens when life throws curve balls? 💭
Do we flow or- close?
The last few months this has been tested for me over and over again.
Can I flow instead of shut down, become angry, worried or fearful when change or curve balls show up? It isnt easy.
Life has required a lot of softening and trusting these last few months.
I started to develop continual health flares linked to my stress as I have been working almost full time with assisting my father in his life transition for him after his health and more started to decline rapidly and has needed more support.
My sister and I are his only family and working with the resources of the system, housing and more - has been, very timely and exhausting. Sadly with this - my time, energy and ability to create and be present in this space has been more limited.
I know this is only temporary but just like anything- can we trust the temporary set backs or pain that may be with us in life right now? Can we stay open to life and ourselves when these type of set backs happen?
I can’t thank you enough for all who are still with me here 🤍 Thank you for your patience in this last month!
Looking forward to finally being back with you all now 😘🤍
An invitation 🤍
Sit back and - watch her.
Drink her essence.
Allow, this- to be your greatest turn on.
Your simple observance and allowance of her in the present to be - your igniting fire.
In everyday moments - step back and - watch her
Take in the way her hair softly carries over her shoulder as she turns her head
How her smile widens as she speaks about a moment in the day
How her body moves about the rooms with - grace- being the light in the room
How her voice softens yet - heightens when she laughs with you
When you do this - watch how she responds
You- being lost in her essence.
More- than her body.
You- seeing her, soul. Moving about.
Breathing in - just that.
There is fire whenever you need it.
It ignites in you simply- watching her
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Take a moment, for you 💛
With each of our lives comes - responsibility, the unexpected and a lot to juggle overall on our daily plates.
Where are the moments- to truly honor - US?
Much of life - we often might become disconnected from our feelings, the present or our body due to the go go go or stressors of life .
🌿Slowing down with a single moment
🌿.Feeling that moment, as deeply as you can.
🌿Feeling its offerings and reminders of- love. You- as deserving and as being- love.
🌿Slowing down with, you. Your breath. Your body.
This is your control gauge back to center.
Back to, you.
Take a moment with me here to honor- you. Breathe alongside my breath.
Thank you for each and every one of you who are still here honoring my work and me even in my brief absences most recently - I had a health flare and then have been moving through a serious family emergency with my dad and it’s requiring a lot on me to tend to right now so I will always be here when I can. I will always create - when I feel, me. That is my promise.
I am thankful to come back here after long days and read such nourishing messages from you all . My heart feels so so full in that.
So much love for you all
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Did you know bird songs are medicine for us and our nervous systems?
Listening to bird songs helps to improve mental alertness, lift our mood, bring balance and strength to our nervous system as well as guide it into the calm / parasympathetic state 🤍
Close your eyes the next time you hear the birds sing around you.
Know, they are healing medicine here to bless you 😊
Happy Monday! 🪷 Do you pair your housework with music and dancing too? 💭
When I have housework to do - I get into the mindset of - how can I make this more playful?
If we are going to do housework - let’s make it more enjoyable!
👉🏻What are your favorite ways to make your housework more enjoyable?
What is our relationship with LIFE? ✨💭
Our relationship with life reflects into every other relationship we have - with sex, with any partners / romantic relationships, with money, with work, with responsibility, communication and more.
Reflecting on this one question can offer deep wisdom into us.
• Do we often choose to disconnect in life?
• Do we more often lead ourselves or follow in life?
• Do you often rush or focus on an end or the destination vs enjoying the moment?
• Do we choose to shut down when something out of our control arises?
• Do we blame life for what’s here today?
• Do we speak aloud what we want for life or keep it to ourselves?
• Do we try to always know or have control?
• Do we feel life and use our senses in the day?
• Do we spend time in presence with life or are we often in our mind or on the go?
• Do we always try to please another vs balance?
• Do we tend to live in our minds and try to use logic more than feeling in life?
We must know -
👉🏻The greatest sex as well as the greatest relationships, communication, LIFE - comes when there is COMMUNICATION. FLOW. AUTHENTICITY. PRESENCE. FEELING / GOING DEEPER INTO THE SENSES. BALANCE OF OFFERING AND ALLOWING, RECEIVING.
When we want to understand, grow or improve an area of our lives - we can reflect and know that everything is related.
I often get questions
- “How do I have even better sex?”
- “How do I give my partner the best orgasm?”
- “ How can I be the best lover in sex?”
- “Why do I struggle to cum during sex?”
- “ Why can’t I get out of my head during sex?”
- “ How can I get out of my head during sex?”
- “ How do I build confidence in the bedroom?”
When I work 1:1 and in group setting for my intimacy work - we approach these questions and desired from a LIFE and INDIVIDUAL level as, everything is connected.
What is our relationship with LIFE? 💭✨
For more information on my 1:1 offerings and coaching - message me here with the first line as - 1:1
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🚨 NEW VIDEO - Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety is, natural and, human.
Whether it comes up within communicating, expressing, dating, during sex or physical intimacy or whatever else - it is our body and mind simply trying to keep us SAFE and PROTECT US.
When it comes up - it is trying to protect us from rejection, not having that clarity and security of knowing, messing up or “failing”, not being as good as another, etc.
Every single one of us can relate feeling PA, even if it is not acknowledged or spoken allowed.
🚨This video goes into :
1. Things to remember about PA
2. Why PA happens
3. A few things that may be encouraging heightened PA for physical intimacy
More to come ~ ♥️
What was your take away from this video?
I would love your feedback in the comments in a message or in the comments below
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To you - Mother Earth ☀️
I devote myself to loving you the way you have always, loved me 🌲
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We are not separate from nature.
We are one with nature.
Our nerves traveling our entire being, matching the look of branches of trees surrounding us
Our thumbprints aligned with the look of the print on the inside of the trees.
When we spend time with Mother Earth,
We come home to, us 💛
Us - outside of the conditioning, the shoulds, the responsibilities.
Mother Earth brings us back to LIFE.
We are reminded of the beauty in our uniqueness and how the plants and outdoors honor the variety and timing of one another.
We are reminded of how life is, flow.
How nothing is rushed by Mother Earth.
Know - Mother Earth is always here to hold you ♥️
May we hold her, the way she carries us.
#everydayisearthday #happyearthday
Do you feel tired after ejaculating? 💭
When you ejaculate, your brain releases a mix of neuro chemicals - one of the them being OXYTOCIN.
Oxytocin helps make us feel happy, warm on the inside (love) and relaxed. We may even feel sleepy as it aids the parasympathetic (rest) nervous system to take over.
👉🏻Semen retention practices and re -circulation of the ejaculation can be beneficial to still have the full pleasure of an orgasm and ejaculation happening but without having the actual ejaculation outward that aids the sleepiness and loss of nutrients with it.
✨Since Oxytocin is our happy chemical - feel good brain chemical - This is why masturbation or sex with ejaculation may be enjoyed more often for stress relief or desired relaxation as it produces rushes of Oxytocin.
👉🏻Other activities that also promote Oxytocin production and release :
- hugging + cuddling
- creating / music - art - anything using creativity
- connecting with someone we care about
- telling someone we care about them
- listening to music that soothes us
- spending time in the outdoors
- listening to bird songs
- getting a massage or touch
- exercising
- sharing our dreams
- cooking and eating with someone you care about
- meditating and MORE
Cheers to creating more feel good in our day to day lives. We deserve it. 💛✨
